Comments on: Mommy of Many Show #21: Learning Lessons #4 http://www.mommyofmany.com/2008/03/16/mommy-of-many-show-21-learning-lessons-4/ Doing the Dance of the Children Wed, 08 Sep 2010 03:11:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Maggie http://www.mommyofmany.com/2008/03/16/mommy-of-many-show-21-learning-lessons-4/comment-page-1/#comment-485 Maggie Mon, 17 Mar 2008 17:41:03 +0000 http://www.mommyofmany.com/2008/03/16/mommy-of-many-show-21-learning-lessons-4/#comment-485 A hug can definitely go a long way! I know that even as an adult sometimes you just need a really nice hug from a loved one. I am a pretty affectionate person...so while I'm down there be prepared for some hugs ;)! I love you xoxoxo A hug can definitely go a long way! I know that even as an adult sometimes you just need a really nice hug from a loved one. I am a pretty affectionate person…so while I’m down there be prepared for some hugs ;) !

I love you xoxoxo

]]> By: Alexis http://www.mommyofmany.com/2008/03/16/mommy-of-many-show-21-learning-lessons-4/comment-page-1/#comment-483 Alexis Mon, 17 Mar 2008 06:05:32 +0000 http://www.mommyofmany.com/2008/03/16/mommy-of-many-show-21-learning-lessons-4/#comment-483 This is so true. Kids need lots of hugs & kisses! Its a hard balance in terms of discipline though. When the boys misbehave or talk back, I want them to realize it isn't okay and that there is a consequence like a time out, but I also know that what you are saying is true too. When they start acting up, Clint will say, "Do you need to be tickled?"- that's sort of the warning to start acting right. Usually it works & if he tickles them, they stop being sassy. I give lots of hugs and get down on the floor and play with them through out the day, but I have a hard time reacting to bad behavior with a positive spin like Clint does. I tend to give a few warnings, count to 5, and if the behavior doesn't change, use a time out & then we talk about what went wrong. I guess both approaches can work. I like that Clint and I sort of "balance" each other out. Admittedly, I sometimes feel like the "strict parent" to an extent, but I think that can be okay as long as there is a lot of love being shown like you talked about. This is so true. Kids need lots of hugs & kisses! Its a hard balance in terms of discipline though. When the boys misbehave or talk back, I want them to realize it isn’t okay and that there is a consequence like a time out, but I also know that what you are saying is true too. When they start acting up, Clint will say, “Do you need to be tickled?”- that’s sort of the warning to start acting right. Usually it works & if he tickles them, they stop being sassy. I give lots of hugs and get down on the floor and play with them through out the day, but I have a hard time reacting to bad behavior with a positive spin like Clint does. I tend to give a few warnings, count to 5, and if the behavior doesn’t change, use a time out & then we talk about what went wrong. I guess both approaches can work. I like that Clint and I sort of “balance” each other out. Admittedly, I sometimes feel like the “strict parent” to an extent, but I think that can be okay as long as there is a lot of love being shown like you talked about.

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