A Few Words For the Ladies
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The other night I was with a group of great ladies and we were chit chatting about life. We got on the subject of organizing our houses and how we like things done and how our husbands are often times clueless about where things go or how we like things put away, folded, organized, etc. This ultimately ends up in our doing all the work or being frustrated when things aren’t done “right”. BTW this isn’t only about husbands, but older children, as well. So, the workload of the house ends up on Mom’s shoulders and leads to us feeling like no one can do it except us. Guess what ladies? It’s our job to TEACH them how we like it done! It does no good to simply be frustrated! If we want help and we want it done our way, then we have to take on the task of guiding the older kids and the husbands through the way the house works. Over the years I’ve found that the work can be divided up and I can still get the results I desire, by taking the time to explain why I fold the towels a certain way or where I keep the unfolded socks. The members of our families aren’t as unwilling to help us as we think. However, they know that we DO have a certain way we want things done and they’d rather do nothing than make us upset by doing it wrong.
I found out that Clay was perfectly willing to help put clean laundry away in the kids’ rooms, but had no idea what drawer things went into. A little time and a few labels later, I can count on him to get Luke-Xavier’s shirts and pants into the correct drawers.
Let’s stop being frustrated and take a little time to guide everyone in how it works.
Have a great day!
Sunday, March 8th 2009 at 3:57 pm |
That is a good point, but I have to admit that when I show Clint how I like things done, I feel like a nag & when we’re tired from the day, I’m sure he probably thinks that I’m nagging, even if I say it nicely. I’ve been referred to as a bit of a drill sergeant (and I suppose it’s a true, but I feel that I can keep things organized & everything going smoothly that way), so most of the time I just let him help out how he can (which is a lot), and just try to appreciate what help I get & however it comes & try to see the forest beyond the trees. Can’t wait to here the next show!
Sunday, March 8th 2009 at 7:50 pm |
We are “creatures of habit”. Hard to remember how you want your towels folded but I try. You never did tell me the last time I folded for you. Knew it was wrong but since you didn’t complain I didn’t ask. Hee, hee! At least it got done. Know exactly what you mean though because when G-P puts dishes away they are NEVER in the right place OR, he turns the glasses and cups upside down whereas I like them upright. Won’t complain though because he has emptied the dishwasher without me asking. Also, I find it funny that he won’t fold my underwear when he pulls a load out of the dryer. I ask him “why?” and he says “because I know that you want it folded a certain way”. Give me a break – just fold and put it in the drawer silly.