Overcoming Mommy Guilt….or, at least Trying

In all my years of being Mommy, I’ve  battled a constant tinge of Mommy Guilt.  When I only had Kateri, I felt guilty that I had to work and go to school so much.  When I had 4 kiddos, I felt bad that I was working around the house to keep things in order and running smoothly instead of spending more time playing with the kids.  When I had 5 kiddos, I felt bad that we’d moved so many times and that Kateri and JJ had to get used to changing schools and making new friends.  When I had 7 kiddos, I felt bad that I was so tired.  Now that I have kids that are away at school, I feel bad that I can’t fulfill their every wish.  Don’t misunderstand, they aren’t over-demanding, but there are many extra activities that happen and I can’t make all of them happen.  The same is true for the kids who are still at home.  They each come to me with needs, desires and ideas and if I said yes to each child, that would be at least 7 things, every day!  So, I have to look at our schedule, budget, and ability and say yes or no.  But it eats at me!  I WANT to say yes to everything.  And sometimes, the requests of one child will be more “doable”, more often than the requests of the other children.  THIS is Doing the Dance of the Children!  The guilt and bombardment can get overwhelming.  I’m determined to focus on what I DO and not what I CANT do.  

Now to try to get the kids to look at it like that!

Have a great day~

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Don’t forget to check back tomorrow for a chance to win the last set of tickets I have to Shecky’s Girls Night Out San Diego!