2 Questions On My Mind
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Over the last couple of days I’ve had 2 questions on my mind. I’m hoping to hear what your experiences have been (if any) with either or both of these-
1) has a child of yours ever had a friend who repeatedly blamed them for things they didn’t do?
2) Have you ever been at a playground (or in a shared playing experience) and had and unpleasant parent ruin the experience to the point that you felt that it was time to leave?
I can’t wait to hear how you’ve dealt with these things.
Doing the Dance of the Children and always looking for the best Dance steps~
Saturday, August 7th 2010 at 11:16 am |
I admit guilt on #1……used to blame my younger sister for bad things we did. <:)
Saturday, August 7th 2010 at 12:31 pm |
I have dealt with a friend’s child who lies when confronted about acting badly (kicking my kids, grabbing their toys & throwing them on the ground, saying something is his even though it isn’t (actually it belongs to us) & I witness the action & ensuing lie. Stuff happens, kids make bad choices, but I think the thing that bothers me is when it’s consistent. A few bad choices, okay, I can deal with that. But, when it seems to happen more often than not, then I do, admittedly, avoid playing with a child in that boat. The suggestion of talking to the parents was put forth by a family friend, but I felt that limiting play time with the child & if possible, avoiding it at all, was the answer & discussing with my kids what was happening & why we’re not playing so much with these kids anymore. I didn’t want to get anyone’s guard up about their child’s behavior, didn’t seem worth it or prudent. How can they not know; if they’re involved parents, they know. If they don’t know, well, I don’t want to be the messenger.
I guess if it were me, I’d find other friends. Maybe that’s not the best solution, but I guess that’s the path I’ve taken. I want to be polite & cordial to everyone, but I care about the influences my kids are around (not that they’re perfect, I know that for sure, but I do notice the difference in their behavior depending on who they’re playing with) & if there seems to be a consistent issue that, from my perspective, is an issue, then we put some distance.
Wow on the unpleasant parent thing. To the point of wanting to leave even! I don’t think I’ve ever really gotten into enough of a conversation with anyone at a park to open that door. I’d probably just leave the park though or go to a different part of it. Especially if someone I don’t know is causing me grief, I’d just leave, who needs it? There’s enough to deal with without letting socially inept strangers ruin the day.