Archive for November, 2011

Calling For Prayers & Thoughts For Matt Wise & the Wise Family

November 30, 2011

This morning the forward most thought on my mind is to ask everyone to pray for Matt Wise and his family. I’ve known the Wise family for about 13 years. We went to church together and my kids played with their kids. We met in San Diego as military families and both have 9 kids.

I’m calling out that you take a moment to offer a prayer for them, after reading their latest post about their son, Matt’s 46-day ordeal in the hospital. I won’t go into all the details, but the last post from Matt’s dad, Mike, deserves some attention. I’ll repost a portion of it here.
“Today has gone from bad to worse. The doctors called a family meeting this afternoon, and it’s obvious why they wanted to talk. Matthew has declined significantly over the past 48 hours, and is currently in very poor physical condition..I met one on one with the head of ICU late this afternoon. He told me point blank that they’ve run out of options. Anything they might do at this point to correct the problems listed above would most likely create new, perhaps worse problems. They can’t cut him open unless his liver improves. That essentially rules out a lung transplant. A liver transplant would be even worse. Both operations would cause massive bleeding. Even the continued use of high-powered blood pressure medications is taking a toll (as we already knew or suspected). They can’t do anything to help his lungs either while he’s in this condition. Fluid build-up is reaching a critical stage. They expect his next complication to be sepsis, or blood poisoning. His doctor told me that this is it – either he gets better on his own, or it’s over. Not something I ever wanted to hear from a doctor, but I’ve heard it once before — at VHC, some 26 days ago after they had run out of options..Matthew, you made it another 26 days after the last crisis, and you’re not done yet! One thing that we’ve learned over these past 46 days is to completely and unequivocally trust in the will of God. We know God has a purpose for all of this, and although we are still too close to the problem to see or understand God’s will, we must have faith that God’s purpose will be revealed to us over time.”

I can’t imagine the pain that this family is going through. Please offer a moment on their behalf.

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Mommy of Many Review & Cyber Monday Special-Placer Wellness Group

November 28, 2011

What could be better than a discount on services that make you feel better?!

I recently had the pleasure of trying out the massage services offered at Placer Wellness Group. 30 minute chair massage is offered as well as 60 and 90 minute full-body massage. Why not treat yourself to a hot stone massage? All massage services are $1 per minute. However, as a Cyber Monday special if you mention Mommy of Many® now through December 31st, you will receive 10% off ANY services offered at the office! What a great deal! Pain management, Medical Weight Loss, Chiropractic and Physical Therapy are just a few of the services offered. For a full listing of all offerings be sure to visit their website here. Also, don’t forget to check out their facebook fan page for up-to-date info on all things happening at the office. While you’re there, become a fan!

Placer Wellness Group, because Life is Health and being healthy certainly keeps me Doing the Dance of the Children~

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Thanksgiving 2 Days Later

November 26, 2011

I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!

I spent the 2 days before, full of stress and anxiety over making sure I had enough food, that it would all be cooked correctly and that people would be happy. Oh yeah, let’s not forget the worry over whether or not the house would be clean and tidy enough. Geez! I worked myself into a nutty frenzy. Then…I took a BIG breath, cried and decided I needed to let it go. Everything was going to be fine. All the food was going to be delicious and everyone was going to have a happy, relaxing, enjoyable holiday. After that moment, I was able to move forward happily. And guess what! I was right! No one cared if my laundry was done or my bed was made. They didn’t even care that the floors weren’t gleaming when the light hit them. Instead, they were happy to walk into a house that smelled of yummy goodness and was full of warmth, smiles and family. THAT is what it’s all about! And it was good!

Why we put these ridiculous demands and expectations on ourselves or why we allow the unreal expectations of others’ to creep in, I will never know, but I will continue to try to have a meltdown, shrug it off, move forward and know that it’s all good.


People relaxed, played games & visited


People were silly and happy to be together


People took pictures and shared


People gathered, gave thanks and feasted


I found a “winer” notice under my chair


Gabi had put winning notes under random chairs and then gave out prizes. We both got homemade fans. (I love the little things kids do!)


And we all got to visit with family that we don’t always get to see. I had 3 of my sisters, my brother and my parents with me and the kids. I’d like to show a pic of all of us, but it just didn’t happen. So here’s me and my brother Ted, who came up from San Diego. We used to see each other almost everyday. I miss him!

~Contented Sigh~

Now it’s time to say good bye to another Thanksgiving and get into the spirit of Christmas. I started yesterday. There’s still plenty of decorating to do, a few stockings and some Advent candles to buy, but here’s what I’ve gotten accomplished;


These are the little trees that I decorate with all the kids’ handmade ornaments.

A few of the stockings (they won’t all fit over the fireplace, so they’re in a couple different places). This morning Lex already went to feel the toe of his, just to make sure St. Nick didn’t make a guest appearance last night :-)


This still looks a little bare. But it’s all coming along. I’m excited for Christmas because ALL my kids will be here. I haven’t had them all together since LAST Christmas. I can’t wait!

One more Thanksgiving down, with lots and lots to be thankful for.

Doing the Dance of the Children into the Holidays~

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The Things a Girl Learns When She’s On Her Own…

November 23, 2011

So, tonight I got a valuable lesson in patience and clear-headed thinking. My sink was backed up. Not just backed up but full of all sorts of icky looking things in brown water AND backed up. I pushed up my sleeve and reached into the disposal. I fished out a few items-carrot top, onion peelings and 1/2 a lemon. I tried the disposal again, got a nice water show, but didn’t make any progress on getting the sink to drain. Now, in years past my way of handling this would have been to pick up the phone, put a call into Housing Maintenance (for those who have never lived in Military Housing, let me just tell you that Housing Maintenance is amazing. A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! There is always…ALWAYS someone to answer the phone, take the description of what’s wrong/broken/clogged/needing to be replaced and then they determine if it’s an emergency or if it can wait to be handled within the next 24 hours). I lived in Housing for the last 12 years. I pretty much didn’t need to learn to fix anything. But now…different story.

After clearing whatever I could find I ran the water and the disposal again. Nope! So I reluctantly went and got the plunger. The only thing that allowed my ick factor to use the plunger is the fact that it’s new. I made a mental note to purchase a Kitchen-Only plunger to keep under the sink.


One of these brightly colored cuties would do

So I plunged and I gathered and I learned that water that won’t drain down the sink WILL come out the handy overflow thingy on top of my sink . Ok! So I made sure it was aiming into the sink and I plunged all the water out of the sink through the overflow. Along with the water came many many potato peelings, carrot peelings and of all things-onion peelings. Someone (who does not live in my house) needs a lesson on what can and can not go down the disposal!

40 minutes later, with rough, dry hands, I cleaned the sink with soap and hot water and replaced the bathroom plunger behind the toilet, where it belongs. And though I wasn’t particularly pleased about having to learn this lesson, I am patting myself on the back for a job completed (not sure about well done).

Doing the Dance of the Children and Learning Something New Everyday~

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Thanksgiving Week and a Week of Thanks Giving

November 22, 2011

Alright, now that my parenting rant is over, it’s time to get back to regular life.

And that’s just what I did on Saturday morning. I woke up early, put on (what I thought were) some warm clothes and headed out in the early morning to help out at the MandaRUN in Loomis. This is where I realized that I really don’t know anything about the cold. Brrrrr! I had on jeans, sock, tennis shoes, a long sleeved Tshirt, a hooded sweatshirt and gloves. This was not nearly enough to keep my So. Cal. blood warm! There was much leg shaking and toe crunching to try to keep from losing all the feeling in my feet. Honestly, I was really caught by surprise. When I felt how cold I was I thought that all these people who were showing up to run were nuts! But after 2 hours of being cold, I watched sweaty people in tank tops running through the finish line and realized that THEY were the smart ones! Ok, so I have a thing or 2 to learn about wardrobe changes in a place that actually has seasons. I’m doing my homework and making the proper adjustments!

My kiddos are all off for this entire week. We’re used to only getting a 1/2 day off on Wed and then Thanksgiving and the long weekend. It’s nice to have everyone here and be able to have a relaxed schedule for the week. No alarms going off, no crazy M.O.M. ranting about undone homework or papers to sign, no stressing out over what foods need to be consumed for healthy brain function during the school day. This is Good Stuff!

After I spent the morning getting some website work and Silpada work done, I packed up the 4 youngest (the 2 high schoolers were content to stay in pj’s, watch movies and snack) and we headed out for a little exploring. One thing that strikes me about out area is how many parks there are. Parks are EVERYWHERE! It’s so great! We’ve explored about 5 of the parks around us, which leaves tons more to find and have fun at! So yesterday we got in the car, decided what direction to drive in and came across a fun, new (to us) park. The equipment here was really cool! Everything was different from the norm. Fun!

Here’s to a week off and the time to think about being thankful for the little things! Here’s to playing with the kids and not waking up to an alarm! Here’s to food that will be on the table and the ability to explore our new surroundings. Here’s to beautiful people who touch us in so many ways. Here’s to life…all of it!

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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Life’s Not Fair

November 19, 2011

Well ain’t that the truth!

I never do this-I never publicly complain about how it is. But tonight I’m hot! I’m so dang hot and I’m so sick of being on 24/7 and having every single waking moment be about the well-being of my kids (as it should be), only to have an angry teen berate and bully me because they don’t get what they want. Guess what?! Sometimes the answer is “NO”! No, you are not allowed to watch an inappropriate movie and NO you don’t get to bully me because of my appropriate parenting. And dang it…I’m sick and tired of being blamed for how unfair it is that your life had to change. You know what?! Mine did too! And I don’t always like it. But I’m making the best of it and I’m working my behind off every moment of every day to make sure I’m doing the very best I can for all of you. Sometimes that’s going to mean you’re being parented and teens, even in the very best of situations, aren’t always happy with being parented. But it’s still my job!

It’s not fair!

Yep! Totally not fair! It’s not fair that everything I thought I was working for was a sham. It’s not fair that after 9 kids and 40 yrs of life that I have to worry about how to keep food on the table and a roof over most of those kid’s heads. It’s not fair! But it’s life! It’s life! And honestly, fair or not, each day brings something beautiful and I am working SO hard to give as much of that beauty as I can to my kids. That’s the goal of each of my days. I want them to feel loved, protected, secure and free. And you know what?! I want the same for myself. So go ahead, be angry. Call me names. Tell me it’s unfair and that I’m horrible. I’ve done what I needed to. Every single step I’ve made has been put before me and I know that God’s with me each day. And I won’t stop parenting. Not because of your fit. Not because of your anger. Not because you bully me and not because you tell others lies about who I am. It’s my job and I’ll keep doing it.

It’s not fair, but it’s true!

Doing the Dance of the Children!

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Story Time & More at Big Spoon Yogurt

November 18, 2011

Yesterday I had the fun of being the Story Time reader at our local, Big Spoon Yogurt. 3, holiday-themed books were preselected, the room was rearranged and kiddos and mommies came in to enjoy some yummy yogurt and listen to some Thanksgiving fun. I’ve always enjoyed reading to my little ones and thought being able to participate in this monthly event would be fun. I was right!

Every 3rd Thurday from 1-2pm Story Time can be enjoyed, complete with a free 4 oz. yogurt for all listeners 6 yrs old and younger.

If you missed out on this month’s Story Time, be sure to mark your calendars for next month and THIS Saturday, November 19th from 1-2pm a Free and Fun special Holiday craft is being offered. A complimentary hot chocolate can be enjoyed during this craft time. Go! Free fun is my FAVE!

Big Spoon Yogurt, serving up yummy yogurt and a lil extra fun on the side.

Good Stuff that helps me keep Doing the Dance of the Children with a spring in my step~

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Doing the Dance on Thursday

November 17, 2011

~Sigh~

With a heaved sigh, I look at the clock and realize that I’ve had 2 whole hours to “work”. The sigh is because I’ve been at the computer and on the phone the entire time and while I know, for sure, that I’ve gotten lots of “work” done; loose ends tied up, emails sent, contacts made, statuses updated ;-) , phone calls made, my calendar updated, Oh yeah-dinner’s in the slow cooker and I made sure to announce my Story Time debut, but if you walked into my house right now, you’d see a stack of dirty pots and pans and every single knife in the house, waiting to be washed, vacuuming that needs to be done, clothes that need to be hung up and at least one bathroom that needs some attention given to cleaning detail.

Is it a M.O.M.’s constant Dancing act (some of you may juggle, or balance. I choose to do my work while dancing) to pick and choose which steps make it into the daily routine? I’m sick of feeling like I’ve worked. No! Wait! A rephrase is in order…I’m sick of KNOWING I’ve worked for hours/days but knowing that the work isn’t something my family can SEE, so there’s a lot of acting like M.O.M. does NOTHING.

I suppose this is my own hang up, something I need to let go of. But the floors still need to be cleaned and the dishes still need to be washed, so letting go of the “I haven’t worked hard enough” feelings isn’t going to change the fact that the work still needs to get done.

~Sigh~

So with another deep sigh, I think I’ll turn the music up, log off the computer and go do some work that will show me some results before I head out to pick kids up from school and head off to a fun Story Time (watch for this post).

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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A Mommy of Many® Review-Delight Cleaning

November 16, 2011

Talk about a M.O.M.’s dream review! Right before the holidays, I’m asked by the owner of Delight Cleaning if he could come clean my carpets so that I can review the services offered by the company. YES!!!!

Ray arrived, cheerful and on time to see if I had any problem areas and helped get a few pieces of my living room furniture moved (I moved most everything, but the big pieces proved too much for me, on my own). I pointed out the spots I’d been unsuccessful at removing from the dining room and hall and headed out the door to take care of some errands.

I came home a couple of hours later to a perfectly cleaned front room, dining room and hall. Yea! No more spots! Get your home in shape for entertaining for the holidays! Check out all of Delight Cleaning’s cleaning services on their website. You can also follow along on Twitter where helpful cleaning tips are offered and questions can be asked.

Lots of Good Stuff from Delight Cleaning that will help me keep Doing the Dance of the Children in a clean home~

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November 14th and I’m Feeling Thankful…Again~

November 15, 2011

Reasons to be thankful today-

Hugs even when I’m a drippy-nosed, mouth-breathing, cold infested-wreck

Being able to easily get work done because of internet access in my home-finally!!!!

A conference filled with good news from today’s parent/teacher conference

An unbelievably kind/thoughtful/loving/generous/trusting friend

Meeting with a new friend and feeling so connected

Moving furniture because tomorrow I get my carpets cleaned for a review of the company’s services

Meeting with the owner of a local shop and confirming that I’ll be doing StoryTime for them this week

A glass of wine and a quiet house after a L-O-N-G but full day

Good Stuff!

G’night…Don’t forget to count your blessings~

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A Reason To Be Thankful

November 14, 2011

I’b dot a told…a bad one.

I woke yesterday to a runny nose, a cough and pressure in my sinuses. I took some vitamins, stayed well hydrated and ignored it. There’s no point in M.O.M. giving in to feeling sick because the Daily Dance isn’t going to stop or even slow much. So I pushed on. This morning it was a little worse, but again, I pushed forward, packed up the kids, toys, snacks and hit a park. But this evening this little cold of mine decided it would no longer be ignored and hit me hard. I know that none of this sounds like a reason to be thankful and none of that stuff is, but this…THIS, is Good Stuff-

Maddi comes in from San Diego tonight and not only was she landing at 10pm, but I just found out her flight’s been delayed and she won’t even land until about 11:30pm and who’s picking her up and delivering her here? Her dad. I AM SO VERY GRATEFUL that tonight, of all nights, he is the one taking care of this. A reason to be thankful, indeed!

Now I’m going to drink some effervescent Vitamin C, curl up and go to sleep.

G’night~

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Loving the Long Weekend!

November 13, 2011

Nothing spectacular has happened, we didn’t go to a parade or win the lottery, but having the extra day to just be has felt SO good!

On Friday, 11/11/11, we celebrated Max’s 9th birthday. It was cloudy out, so we chose to spend a couple hours at an indoor playplace-Wacky Tacky. It was crowded and full of the energy that kiddos with a day off have to burn! Tristan and Max especially liked the foam, air guns. They spent quite a bit of time shooting at anything and everything. When as much energy as possible was expended, we headed home for lunch. Then it was present time! Whoo Hoo! In the last few weeks, we’ve discovered the Plasma Car. One of our neighbors has them and the kids really fell in love with riding them. So not only did Gabi get one for her bday (pink, of course), but Max is now the happy owner of one in yellow. These really are great! They hold up to 180 lbs, sit low to the ground and require nothing but kiddo energy.

Then we enjoyed a nice dinner and dessert was some special Daddy n Max time at a frozen yogurt shop that also boasts a hot chocolate bar! Yum!

Yesterday we ran errands and spent some time visiting with a friend that was up from Pacific Beach. The kids enjoyed some time finding items to add to their Christmas lists at Barnes and Noble while I got to hear what’s been happening at the beach. A great afternoon!

This morning has been leisurely, with kids waking up one-at-a-time over the last couple hours. Max has been taking his Lego Creations vehicle (another bday gift) apart and rebuilding it into one of the other vehicles it’s capable of making. This would NOT of been a toy I would’ve enjoyed. I want things put together and to perform whatever function they’re created to perform, but Max and Tristan both LOVE taking their Legos apart and recreating over and over again. The difference between girls and boys? Or the difference between brains that function at what’s been deemed “genius” level and those of us who have regular ol’ brains? Who knows! But I’m glad they have so much fun with it all!

So it’s Legos and Apple Crumble muffins for breakfast and onto a Sunday that will involve some leftover homework, the beginnings of a school project, church in the evening and then youth group.

A good weekend!

Doing the Dance of the Children and Feeling Thankful For All of It~

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A Parenting Fact-The Bathroom

November 10, 2011

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I do believe that no one has to use the bathroom so bad as when there are chores to be done.

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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SST meeting for Max-Good Stuff!

November 10, 2011

A little later today I’ll sit down with several people from Max’s school for an SST meeting to get a 504 plan in place for him. This is such Good Stuff! This means that there will be an actual set of tools in place that move from year to year with him so that each teacher isn’t trying to develop their own system each year. It will help take the guess work out of what works well for him and will help him feel more confident when he has challenging situations in the classroom.

Because Max isn’t academically challenged, he doesn’t qualify for an IEP, so it can be quite challenging to know what makes for a successful Max day in the classroom. I’m excited for moving forward!

Stay posted for more info!

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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Let’s Have a Laugh-It’s on Me

November 9, 2011

Oh what a weekend!

So here’s my story. Feel free to feel all the appropriate feelings as you read and don’t be afraid to laugh. I’m giving you this one, on me.

Many of you know that my life has changed quite a bit in the last 6 months (well, really in the last few years). I’ve moved from Pacific Beach, Ca. to Rocklin, Ca. and with that move came lots of other life changes. Divorce/single-parenting/money issues…

After finding this great house, getting my kids enrolled in school and embarking on my new routine and budget, I found out that the support I thought I was going to be raising the kids on was in serious jeopardy because their dad was no longer working. I decided to become a Silpada Designs Rep to help keep us afloat. It was the one company I knew I could get behind since I’d been wearing their jewelry and watching the effect it has on people for the last 5 years. So I sent out emails and FB messages to let people know that this was what I was doing and why and I started booking parties. Yea!

This weekend I had my first 2 parties. I studied up, asked questions, attended some training and was ready to bring some fabulous jewelry to some awesome ladies!

Saturday morning I got the kids all packed up and ready to go with their dad, as I would be away and busy for the weekend. When he showed up, we switched vehicles (whichever parent has the kiddos needs the van to accommodate them) and I quickly realized I was left with NO gas. Off to the gas station I went. And here’s where the real story begins…

I slid my card and it was declined. I slid my other card and again, declined. I rummaged through my purse, came up with $10 and a $5 Safeway gift card. On $15 of gas and a prayer, I embarked on the journey from Rocklin to Oakland to try to make some money. I took off and was hopeful. No, I take that back-I was confident I would make it! I turned on the music and started driving. All was good for the 1st hour then I realized I was getting L-O-W. I was driving and older vehicle and began to wonder if it had a gas light or if I would simply run out of gas without warning. I started brainstorming. The best I could come up with was that I have roadside assistance and if/when I truly ran out of gas, I could call them. After a few moments I decided that if this was my BEST plan that I better decide I had NO plan! Who wants to run out of gas, pray your way to the side of the freeway and wait for an hour or so for help?! No good! It was about this time that I got my answer to the light question. Yep! It had a gas light and that light was now on. I stayed as calm as I could and realized I had no option (other than the roadside one) but to call my hostess and tell her what was happening. Ugh! Thank goodness she’s one of my oldest friends and while I’m sure she was annoyed, she would have an idea or a solution.

I dialed, she said “hello?” and I lost it! LOST IT! She asked where I was and told me what exit to try to make it to and that she’d meet me. That FABULOUS friend drove 20 minutes to meet me, put some gas in my car and give me the hug I needed.

She ended up having a GREAT party and earning nearly $300 in FREE jewelry! Thank goodness! I did, in fact make a little money and had no trouble getting home. But wow! What a beginning! I was so shook up that I gave every person the wrong part of their receipt and had to make phone calls letting them know I’d had an “off” day and needed their card info again. Geesh!

So, here’s to humble beginnings, being able to laugh at yourself and to being thankful for the beautiful people in my life.

To Life~

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