Life’s Not Fair
By mommy of many™. Filed in change, children, family life, frustrating, mom, parenting |Tags: children, Doing the Dance of the Children, family life, kids, mom, Mommy of Many, mommyofmany, MommyofMany.com
Well ain’t that the truth!
I never do this-I never publicly complain about how it is. But tonight I’m hot! I’m so dang hot and I’m so sick of being on 24/7 and having every single waking moment be about the well-being of my kids (as it should be), only to have an angry teen berate and bully me because they don’t get what they want. Guess what?! Sometimes the answer is “NO”! No, you are not allowed to watch an inappropriate movie and NO you don’t get to bully me because of my appropriate parenting. And dang it…I’m sick and tired of being blamed for how unfair it is that your life had to change. You know what?! Mine did too! And I don’t always like it. But I’m making the best of it and I’m working my behind off every moment of every day to make sure I’m doing the very best I can for all of you. Sometimes that’s going to mean you’re being parented and teens, even in the very best of situations, aren’t always happy with being parented. But it’s still my job!
It’s not fair!
Yep! Totally not fair! It’s not fair that everything I thought I was working for was a sham. It’s not fair that after 9 kids and 40 yrs of life that I have to worry about how to keep food on the table and a roof over most of those kid’s heads. It’s not fair! But it’s life! It’s life! And honestly, fair or not, each day brings something beautiful and I am working SO hard to give as much of that beauty as I can to my kids. That’s the goal of each of my days. I want them to feel loved, protected, secure and free. And you know what?! I want the same for myself. So go ahead, be angry. Call me names. Tell me it’s unfair and that I’m horrible. I’ve done what I needed to. Every single step I’ve made has been put before me and I know that God’s with me each day. And I won’t stop parenting. Not because of your fit. Not because of your anger. Not because you bully me and not because you tell others lies about who I am. It’s my job and I’ll keep doing it.
It’s not fair, but it’s true!
Doing the Dance of the Children!
Sunday, November 20th 2011 at 4:42 pm |
You are so right that “it’s not fair.” We all push through the hard times and the things that aren’t fair. If teens only knew how hard life really can be. I’m glad you used your voice to get out your frustration! You’re doing a great job and I love you! Big Hug!!! xoxo
Wednesday, November 23rd 2011 at 2:15 am |
I’m right there with you, Jen. It’s not always easy to protect our children’s innocence, especially when “all my friends have seen that movie/show, etc”. I just explain that it is my job to protect their minds, bodies, and souls and I have to answer to God for my failure to do so. Angry teens make it very difficult, but we have to do our jobs for their sakes as well as our own. Hang in there and know you are doing the right thing.
Tuesday, December 6th 2011 at 1:03 am |
BRAVO! You are my hero.