Archive for July, 2012

Settling In…Finally!

July 28, 2012

In exactly 6 days, it will have been one year since I got the keys to this house. One year!

I’ve spent most of this last year feeling like it was too-good-to-be-true. Every month I’d drop off the rent check (that was scrimped and saved and planned for. To make rent, I have to put away a few hundred $’s toward the end of each month for the following month’s due). Then I’d write the checks or schedule the online payments for the utilites. And each month, I’d feel proud and relieved that I’d made it. But I recently realized that I wasn’t settling in. I wasn’t acting like I “lived” here. Sure, I’ve had plenty of gatherings and celebrated special events, but I resisted some of the things that would make me let go of the ever-present fear of NOT being able to live here.

As my lease’s end loomed in front of me, I feared the phone call that would tell me that I would have to move or that the rent would be raised beyond my ability. When I heard nothing, I decided to make the phone call to the property management company and ask the scary questions. What did I find out? There will be NO changes. I can request another year’s lease, or go month-to-month, from here.

~Sigh~

That news made me let go of the fear I’ve been carrying around for the last year and start to REALLY settle in. I gathered up the kiddos, borrowed and bought some yard tools, grass seed, Miracle Gro and gloves and we got to work! I hadn’t rolled up my sleeves and hit the yard since we’ve moved in and it felt SO good! Next up, buying some flowers! I’ve always, ALWAYS had potted flowers and plants in my yards. When I moved, I gave them all away because I had NO idea what kind of living situation I’d have. I’ve missed them!

So now that I know I’ll be starting my 2nd year here, it’s time to make it feel more like home. I’m looking forward to it!

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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Good Stuff From Lex

July 26, 2012

You have to smile when your 6 year old comes in and asks-

“How bad was Leroy Brown?”!

Seriously Good Stuff!

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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10 Days of Good Stuff

July 22, 2012

People always wish each other well. And now that we have instant access to each other’s daily lives and routines through social media outlets, such as Facebook and Twitter, we each receive daily bits of good luck and inspiration from those connected to us. But it’s not often that those well-wishes turn into action!

About 6 weeks ago, a long-time friend from San Diego was following me through social media as I was Doing my daily Dance of the Children and juggling my new work schedule and she sent me a message, saying that she was going to try to come hang out with me and the kids and lend a hand. I thanked her and kind of laughed the whole thing off. However, a few weeks later, she arrived at my door for a 10-day stay at The House of M.O.M. I was SO grateful, knowing I’d have company, extra hands and help with keeping the kiddos entertained! But I was also really nervous. People who don’t have a house full of kids don’t ACTUALLY know what they’re in for. I was concerned that after a few days of laundry, dishes, entertaining kiddos, playing board games and noise, that she just may head home, shaking her head.

Surprisingly, I was wrong!

She was fantastic at entertaining kids, listening to ideas, playing games and being patient! Not only that, she’s a fabulous organizer! You should SEE my game cupboard! Everything is neat and tidy. I also have to mention that she’s one heck of a spider catcher! She caught the HUGEST black widow that any of us have EVER seen. It had been hanging out in my garage for about a month (that I know of). She caught it and turned it into a cool observation piece for the kids. Yes, it’s gone now, but for a few days, they got to observe it.

I just want to say thank you. Thank you for taking a few days out of your life to lend a hand and make things run a little smoother over here. You are appreciated!

Wait! Did I mention that we went to Tahoe?! B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L trip! It was a day trip that I wouldn’t have taken, if I hadn’t have had company to show off to. I hope to do it again, soon!

Doing the Dance of the Children and a little ahead of the game because of a friend’s thoughtfulness~

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Mommy of Many Morning Short-Quote From Mariah

July 13, 2012

You know I spend a great deal of time quoting Lex, but this morning I got a text from Mariah (18yrs old), who was in Oakland for business and is now in SF for business.

“Oakland is a scary place but at least it smells like Chinese food. San Francisco just smells like pee.”

She made me nod and giggle

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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Hey Lex, Will You Promise Me Something?

July 9, 2012

This morning, as I brushed his hair and teeth, washed his face and kissed his cheek, I just had to say these words;

“Lex, will you promise me something? Will you promise me that when you grow up to be a big boy and then a man, that you will remember to do and say everything out of love, in truth and with respect? Will you promise me to be a good, loving man who remembers that God has a plan for you and that you are SO loved?”

He smiled at me and said, “Yes, but you won’t see me very often because I’m going to be on adventures and finding the lost city and the center of the world.”

Alright then, as long as we’re on the same page~

Doing the Dance of the Children and Getting a Little Mushy~

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A Mommy of Many Review-Ziosk

July 8, 2012

Recently, Lex and I were able to get away for a little Mommy N Me time. We went to eat at a local Chevy’s restaurant and were surprised to find this sitting on our table.

Our server came over to explain that the Ziosk was a convenient way to order, pay and stay entertained during our visit. I paged through it and ordered our appetizer and drinks and then agreed to pay the .99¢ so that Lex could play all the games that the device comes loaded with. Of course, he put aside his crayons and colorable table mat and went right to work on all things Ziosk! He had a great time!

This is a convenient way to get things done when you’re in a busy restaurant and your server is swamped and you are ready to order something to get you started or if it’s time to go and you’re ready for your bill (you can pay with your card right at the device!). And yes, it is VERY handy for keeping the kiddos entertained. Though, I can’t help but wonder if fighting and whining wouldn’t have ensued if I had more than one kiddo with me and turns with the Ziosk had to be taken. All wondering aside, I can see myself choosing to head to Chevy’s next time I take a kiddo out to eat, with the thought that Ziosk will help ease any bordom and yes, .99¢ is worth it!

Thanks Ziosk and Chevy’s for a fun Mommy N Me time!

Check out Ziosk’s Facebook Fan page and give ‘em a “like”.

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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365 Days Later

July 1, 2012

Yesterday marked 365 days since I put my kids into the 15-passenger van to pull away from the home and life we’d known for the last 12 years. I drove away jobless, homeless, with all my belongings (except some clothes and this computer) in a storage unit and the realization that my Passat had been repossessed while I slept the night before. I was truly leaving it all behind and driving away into the unknown.

My title is 365 Days Later because this last year was lived one-day-at-a-time. From the very beginning of my journey out of a bad marriage and into an unknown future I held onto the belief that it MUST be done one-day-at-a-time. I couldn’t predict what was ahead or what would need to be done tomorrow. All I could be sure of and handle was what needed to be done today. Each day brought it’s own focus and taking this journey in small pieces; 24 hour chunks, kept me from loosing hope and allowed me to clearly see how God was working in my life.

I look back on this year in disbelief. There were some REALLY rough patches and days that I questioned myself. But I walk through this house each morning, before the kids are up, and  I open the windows and breathe in the newness of another day and I think of all I must do. I thank God for the beautiful people who have formed my safety net and have kept me from hitting the ground with each time I’ve tripped. I say thank you for my ability to write and my understanding of social media, that was gleaned through this very blog and that it has now turned into the tool that puts food on our table and gas in the van. I still get into my van and can’t believe that I a was able to go buy a car, in my own name. I send the payment away, each month, with a measure of pride.

The journey is still taken one-day-at-a-time. I understand that it’s all a part of the big journey of my life and that even though there will be milestones (such as these past 365 days), that the end won’t come until my last breath is taken.

Here’s to faith, beautiful people and the belief that everything happens for a reason and as it’s supposed to.

Doing the Dance of the Children~

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